When Writing a Will — Think of the Adverse

In a society where conversations about death and inheritance are often avoided, writing a will becomes an act of courage and compassion. It is a way of saying, “I have thought ahead. I care enough to protect you from uncertainty.”

As families grow more complex and lives more unpredictable, thinking beyond the present becomes not just advisable but essential. This piece serves as a reminder that the most loving legacy we leave behind is not wealth, but clarity. Editor’s Note

Drafting a will is often seen as an act of love, a final gesture of clarity and care, ensuring that one’s assets and intentions are honoured long after they are gone. Most people, however, write their wills based on the relationships and emotional landscapes of today. Yet life, in all its unpredictability, has a way of shifting equations, adding new complexities, and reshaping old bonds.

When preparing a will, it is essential to look beyond the present moment and consider scenarios that may feel unlikely today but could unfold tomorrow. Relationships evolve, people grow apart or come closer, new individuals enter the family, and circumstances once unimaginable can become real. A well-thought-out will anticipates not only what is known, but also what might change, creating security, fairness, and peace of mind for the future.

1. Relationships Are Not Static

Human relationships are dynamic. The affection, trust, and mutual understanding that exist now may not remain the same over time. A close sibling today could be a distant acquaintance tomorrow. Marriages may change family structures; new partnerships may introduce new dependents. Priorities shift as people move through different phases of life.

For this reason, it is wise to draft a will with foresight,  one that safeguards your intentions even if the personalities, behaviours, or equations of the beneficiaries evolve. A strong will is built not only on present emotions but on clarity, neutrality, and fairness that can stand the test of time.

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2. Guardians and Custodians — Thinking Beyond Emotion

For individuals with minor children, questions of guardianship and custodianship are among the most critical. A guardian is entrusted with the child’s emotional and physical care, while a custodian handles the child’s financial interests until they come of age.

These roles need not be assigned to the same person. A loving relative may be the best emotional anchor for the child, while someone else, more financially astute or institutionally equipped, may be better suited to manage the assets responsibly. Separating these roles ensures that both emotional nurturing and financial stewardship are handled by those best suited for each responsibility.

3. Anticipating Sibling Rivalry

It is an uncomfortable but undeniable truth: inheritance disputes can arise even in families that appear close-knit. Grief alters emotions, external influences can complicate decisions, and differing ideas of what is “fair” can create rifts.

A clear, well-structured will reduces the space for ambiguity. Some choose to record the reasoning behind particular distributions,  not as a defence, but as context to prevent misinterpretation. The goal is not to anticipate conflict but to prevent it, ensuring relationships remain intact even in the face of loss.

4. Revisiting and Updating the Will

Life is fluid. Marriages, divorces, births, deaths, new acquisitions, and shifting dependents, all of these impact the relevance of a will. A document drafted five or seven years ago may no longer reflect your current life or intentions.

Regularly reviewing your will, ideally every few years or after a major life change, ensures it continues to accurately reflect your wishes. This ongoing diligence is one of the simplest yet most effective ways to avoid complications later.

A Will That Reflects Foresight

A will is far more than a legal formality. It is a reflection of foresight and responsibility. Thinking of adverse possibilities does not signal pessimism, it reflects maturity, prudence, and deep care for the people you leave behind.

By planning for variables,  shifting relationships, evolving family dynamics, emotional complexities, and unexpected events, you ensure that your legacy becomes a source of stability rather than conflict, clarity rather than chaos.

Ultimately, a thoughtfully prepared will is not only about the division of assets. It is about preserving peace.